I often get asked how I balance day to day life. To be completely transparent, I have no freaking clue. Don’t get me wrong, I know I’m not the only human with a hectic life, but this year has taught me a hard lesson on balance. Whether it be balancing work, home, blog, or  relationships, balance is tough. When life takes you for a spin, your regularly programmed balancing act can get a little out of whack.

Balance is all about setting boundaries that allow optimal time for things that make you happy, and allow you happiness. By that I mean, I obviously have to work to live the happy and fulfilled life I want to lead, but I also have to set boundaries for my personal time. What does my personal time look like? It can be a number of things, but mostly time at home with my husband and our little zoo of animals. It can also be setting aside time to call my best friends or my Mom to get her advice, planning time to spend on the treadmill, figuring out the weekends for me to spend time with my nephews, or planning my bi-weekly therapist appointments. . Balance is your choice, when you really stop and think about it.

I try to dedicate 2 hours every day to my blog. If I can’t make that 2 hours happen, nothing gets posted to the blog, and that’s just the way it is. I think that speaks to balance and priorities both. Before getting married, my priorities were work and blog. Now that looks a lot different. When this year took a turn with Evan’s health, blogging hit the back burner and it has stayed there for quite a while. My priority has been Evan’s recovery and making sure we stay afloat. They weren’t kidding when they say marriage is all about teamwork. We’ve truly defined what our team looks like this year, and we’re almost winning a few games vs. losing a few as the year comes to a close.

Right now, I spend 9-6 at my full time job every day. I should probably wake up earlier to fit in some quality time with our pup Dottie in the mornings. I’m going to try to add that in as we speak. After 6, I try to workout, figure out dinner plans, organize the house, spend time with my husband or friends, if Evan is out of town, and write a few sentences about an outfit that hopefully makes sense, shut my computer, and try to get some zzz’s. That’s my typical day in a nutshell.

Balance for everyone looks drastically different. But remember that you can control your own balance. Think back to what balance looked like or felt like if you think you’ve lost your balance. I realign myself with balance a few times a year. As seasons change (literally and figuratively), our balance must shift too. Don’t miss out on the little things that mean the most, because you’re too focused on one part of your life. It’s all about the balancing act.